It’s not Forever…

“When your situation is not your ideal, remember, it’s not forever, it’s just for now.” Darnyelle A. Jervey

I don’t know about you but I have had my share of bad moments over the past couple of weeks. Can I be real with you? I know that when you are the “empowerment speaker” everyone believes that you wake up each day on top of the world. Can I set the record straight? We do not. We have the same obstacles and issues affecting us as you. There are no super girl panties to put on, lotions or other creams to spread on, etc that make the disappointments and heartaches dissipate. I hurt, I get discouraged and sometimes I even take my eyes off the prize and focus on my situation and not my promise…Yes, me. Remember, I am keeping it real today.

Sometimes “Walk it Out” Wednesday is about Walking into those things holding you back full force. I walk that you might walk away from your disappointments and walk toward your destiny….

But I hope that my transparency encourages you. Over the past couple of weeks I have been fixated on a quote I first heard Pastor Marvin Sapp say on the intro to his hit “Praise Him in Advance.” He said, “A Worshipper in one who refuses to let what they see hinder what they believe.” I get excited about this quote because we all have problems, troubles, issues, but the way we look at those very things is what determines how long we stay in that state and let the pity party music play.

Are y’all still with me?

I was about to send the invitations to a pity party last Friday when my significant other reminded me of who I am….Not that I forgot on purpose, but I temporarily allowed what I saw to hinder what I believed. I am so glad that he called me and put my in my place and restored my confidence. Yeah, my confidence. I know that I edify you and give you something to chew on, but I need to be encouraged too. It is difficult to bear the task to empower others because everyone feels like “you’ve got it going on,” or “you always have your stuff together,” and that is far from the truth some of the time.

So as I looked at my situation on Friday, after our phone call was over and I was feeling a little better about my situation, I remembered that it is not forever, it is just for now. Repeat it with me….It’s not forever, it’s just for now. The economy, your growing debt, your job that you despise, your car keeps breaking down, your relationship with that person who truly is not worthy of you but you can’t find the strength to walk away, your house is too small,too dirty, etc no matter what the issue it’s not forever, it’s just for now.

I promise you this, if you focus on your promise and not your problems, they will start to bother you a little less each day….remember 95% of everything we do is our attitude…how do you look at the glass on the table…half full, half empty, drip dry….running over?

When your bad days take over your good days, remember it’s not forever, it’s just for now and make the non-negotiable decision to refuse to allow what you see to hinder what you believe.

Be Incredible,it’s already in you.

Darnyelle A. Jervey

Darnyelle is the founder & CEO of Incredible One Enterprises, LLC a full service empowerment firm. For more information or to subscribe to her weekly newsletter, go to

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